Today I want to talk about something called envy. I am personally very bad when it comes to this. Envying someone means you want what others have, you’re not just jealous, you actually want it yourself.
I’ve never had the confidence to get the ‘go big or go home’- attitude. So whenever I made a project for school or just for my own, I’d be humble. I would never said ‘yes, I’m very proud of what I made’, I might never even show it if it wasn’t necessary.
Also I set the bar very high for myself. In my eyes it is never good enough, because someone else does is better. And that peeps, is how envy is born. It isn’t pretty, but you can make it work in your advantage. Here are some tips I use myself to not let the envy get me down.
- Role models
We have role models in real life. People we look up to, who we consider an example to live by. I hang up pictures of those people on my wall for inspiration. So why not do that with that drawing you thought was ‘better’ than yours. Or that quote or paragraph that was so well written. Pin them up your wall and instead of thinking ‘I want to be that good, but I’ll never be‘ start saying ‘I want to be this good and I’m going to do my freaking best to get there’. Use them as inspiration instead of something to break yourself down with.
2. Don’t undervalue
If you’re like me , you might have the tendency to find your own creations never good enough. And this only works motivational until some point were you just give up on it. No one and no one’s talent is born perfect. Best selling authors have badly written drafts. Painters have painting with ‘bad techniques’. Everything needs some work. If you do the best you can, and don’t give up, anything can happen
3. Look it up!
Search the internet off! If you want to become a better writer, actor, artist, find tips and tricks people swear by. Look at tutorials about painting methods. Read articles about writing dialogue. If you go looking for better works, instead of accidentally finding them, you’ll feel a tad less envious already.
4. Practice, practice, practice
If you don’t work for it, you’ll never achieve your goal. Don’t wait until you are good, work for it. Dreams don’t just come and fulfill themselves. I want to be a better writer, so I Pinterest until my eyes can’t handle it anymore, I read other blogs, I write my own blog and I write on Wattpad. they may not be great, or even good. But I know if I keep doing that I’ll become better at it.
5. Believe in yourself
If you don’t believe you can do it, you never will do it.
I hope these tips are as useful as they are for me, and I’ll read you later!