It’s another week of college wisdom (sorta). This week I want to address something that a lot of people face, being introvert. Which can be a real challenge in college or uni. Today you’ll get a view at my experience.
It is totally okay and normal to be introvert. You are not less than an extrovert. You don’t have fewer opportunities than somebody else. You do not have to be afraid to be yourself.
From my experience I noticed that I felt like I would be able to graduate or get a job, because I was so shy and kept to myself. But even in a social education, like mine, being introvert can be an advantage. As long if you work it right, and you really like what you’re doing.
Find a Safe Haven
An introverted person gets his energy from being alone in peace, rather than being around people like an extrovert. When you live in a dorm, or shared house, finding some quiet alone time can be hard.
My advise is to find a place where you go to relax and be alone. Is there a park nearby? take a book, and read on a bench. Or take your music and walk around for a bit. Let your thoughts flow.
I am a morning person, and if you are too, this is one for you. Get up early! Those extra minutes where the dorm/house is completely quiet (except maybe the other introverted morning peeps). It’s my favorite time of the day. I’ll just sit on the couch with my coffee and read.
If you don’t like it, don’t do it
If you are an introvert, you probably heard these:
- You just got the get yourself out there!
- Step outside your comfort zone!
- Just do it!
And we know that this is hard, but they don’t. They don’t know that walking into the cafetaria all alone IS stepping out of comfort zone. Raising our hand in class IS getting yourself out there.
It is true that you have to push yourself a little, but take the steps you are ready for. Forward is forward, doesn’t matter at what speed. Slow is most of the time better, because many of us have taken the leap and make a ‘bold’ move. And it backfired.
Another thing that I think is very important: Parties
I feel very uncomfortable at parties (when I don’t at least know half the people there). You are not obligated to go to parties! I wrote a post last year about this, you can read it here. Go to as many as YOU feel comfortable with. Discover the which types of get togethers you prefer, For example I like going to a bar with friends, but I skip going to clubs. It’s just not my thing. I just find a balance, so I don’t neglect my relationships.
Eating alone is not strange
In contrary to many beliefs, eating alone is not pathetic. Lot’s of people eat alone. No one will look at you funny. Remember that when you have no other choice that to eat in a buzzing and loud cafetaria.
Find your people
It may take a while before you find people who you trust. There are a lot of people there, some you may not click with and others will.
Don’t rush it, people are going to talk to you. You will find friends. I had a rough time in this department because the girls were not my kind of people. But eventually (I’ll admit it took a while) I found them.
Take a book and go high
I don’t mean go high on drug, of course. but you should find a safe haven at campus as well. Usually I go to the seventh floor, eat my lunch there and read, write or listen to music until classes begin. It’s also handy if you have some work to do. Because campus libraries are rarely the quiet place they should be (pro tip)!
Do you have any other tips for us introverts? Please let me know in the comments, I’d love to try them out!
And that’s it! I hope you found this useful! If you did comment, like or share !